Helping people better understand
modern Christian singleness.
Helping people better understand
modern Christian singleness.
Writer, cultural interpreter and storyteller.
Writer, cultural interpreter and storyteller.
Research, essays, public conversation and fiction.
Research, essays, public conversation and fiction.
Latest Publication
The State of Christian Singleness
The State of Christian Singleness
2026 Edition
A Listening Report built from thirteen months of conversations. Looking beyond individual stories to better understand the recurring questions, tensions, and patterns shaping modern Christian singleness.
A Listening Report built from thirteen months of conversations. Looking beyond individual stories to better understand the recurring questions, tensions, and patterns shaping modern Christian singleness.
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Hi, I'm Sekou.
Hi, I'm Sekou.
For years, I kept noticing something hiding in plain sight. There are significantly more women than men in many churches, but we talk far less about what that means for dating, marriage, and the growing number of Christians who remain single longer than they expected.
I call it the elephant in the sanctuary.
And I keep coming back to one question:
For years, I kept noticing something hiding in plain sight. There are significantly more women than men in many churches, but we talk far less about what that means for dating, marriage, and the growing number of Christians who remain single longer than they expected.
I call it the elephant in the sanctuary.
And I keep coming back to one question:
What happens to dating and marriage when the place many Christians expect to find a spouse has far more women than men?
What happens to dating and marriage when the place many Christians expect to find a spouse has far more women than men?
I’ve spent nearly two decades listening to Christian singles talk about love, faith, dating, and waiting. The longer I listened, the clearer it became that many of the struggles people blamed on themselves weren’t simply personal. The environment mattered too.
That’s the world I explore through writing, research, and story.
I’ve spent nearly two decades listening to Christian singles talk about love, faith, dating, and waiting. The longer I listened, the clearer it became that many of the struggles people blamed on themselves weren’t simply personal. The environment mattered too.
That’s the world I explore through writing, research, and story.
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Two good places to begin exploring the work.
Two good places to begin exploring the work.
A conversation about why faithful people are often given guidance that no longer matches the world they're living in.
A conversation about why faithful people are often given guidance that no longer matches the world they're living in.
A series exploring the cultural assumptions, inherited scripts, and quiet realities shaping modern Christian singleness.
A series exploring the cultural assumptions, inherited scripts, and quiet realities shaping modern Christian singleness.
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